Fast food, gourmet, munchies – whatever your appetite, your marriage depends on food for not only survival, but for pleasure and satisfaction. Read more!
Issues concerning food and dining are probably one of the most talked about and thought about in our daily lives. For example, questions like “What should we have for dinner?” or “Where should we eat?” are very common questions we ask more than daily. Of course, on a more physically practical note, our bodies need food to live and survive, but oftentimes we overlook one of life’s simple pleasures that utilize one of our senses; the sense of taste. And that taste means having food for pleasure, more than just to survive.
Most people enjoy eating. Sometimes even just hearing about food makes you feel hungry. Even simply reading about food in the menus at restaurants can subliminally prompt you to order more than you first had in mind. The high-paid marketers have professional ad-copy written with carefully chosen descriptions that sound so good you can almost taste it before you even order it.
Most of the time, the smell of food can make you hungry. I once worked in years past at a Wal-Mart Snack Grill in the Pacific Northwest. One of the strategies they told us to utilize was to make fresh popcorn. We would be instructed to sell the “already-made” popcorn, but the unmistakable aroma of the fresh butter and popcorn almost always drew a crowd of popcorn buyers.
Types and Styles
There are many different types and styles of restaurants and places to eat, ranging from fast food to exquisite gourmet. Some even desire to simply have homemade meals rather than go out. Most people have definite preferences about what and where they eat as well. For example, one person might like McDonalds over Burger king, or vice versa, another person may prefer a local hamburger place over a chain food restaurant, one person may prefer to make their own burgers at home, and another person may not eat meat at all.
In marriage, romance is your food. Romance helps keep your marriage together through all that life brings your way. It is important to keep the romance alive in your marriage and not allow life to squelch its healing power. In fact, to maintain and continue the all-important romance, you absolutely need to spend time together to build and solidify the closeness, just like you did before you got married.
Gourmet or Fast Food
Sometimes you may not be able to have a “gourmet” romance experience every day of your marriage. You may only have enough time to have some “fast food” romance. For example having a romantic dinner at an expensive restaurant every night is not very practical. And even if you had that kind of money or lifestyle, after a while it wouldn’t be special anymore. Your “always-gourmet” becomes the new “norm” and anything less would be very hard to appreciate or accept.
So, it’s good to have a balance of types and styles of food; or, romance as we correlate the two.
Variety is the Spice of Life!
Romance needs variety and spontaneity. Don’t do the same thing to be romantic every time. If you always give flowers, do something else.
The saying goes, “If you always do what you’ve always done, then you’ll always get what you’ve always got!”
Even when exercising, variety is almost always recommended. In fact, if you always do the same routine, your body becomes too proficient at it and you don’t burn as many calories. So they say.
The same thing can happen with your romance. Surprise your spouse with something new. It doesn’t have to be “gourmet” every time. Plan for special times together that will fit the “gourmet” romance category and also account for life’s fast pace of a steady “fast-food” and quick stop munchies.
A Few Examples
Some examples of “fast food” romance might be sending your spouse a text message just to let them know you love them and were thinking about them. Or even calling them just to hear their voice. Even writing them a little love note and putting it in their purse or lunch box can keep the “romance starvation” at bay. Those are just some examples; use your imagination. It doesn’t have to cost a lot.
If you’re extra busy with work, etc. plan out some special time to be together. Remember the earlier part about how hearing about food, reading about food, or smelling food can make you hungry? The same principle applies to romance. Set a date to spend some special time together, talk about what you’ll do, where you’ll go, etc. This will make you “hungry” for romance. Put on some perfume or cologne if your spouse likes that, maybe even wear something special, etc.
In addition to just talking about what you’ll do on your date, flirt with each other daily. Give compliments to each other, give them a flirting look, and look into each other’s eyes. Give hugs and kisses when you go to work and greet each other with a hug and kiss when you get home.
Remember that your marriage needs romance just like your body needs food. And your body is not designed solely for survival food, but also the need for pleasure and satisfaction.
Feed your spouse a steady diet of romance. Let them know without a doubt that you love them and cherish them. Also, let them know that they are and will be the only one to “feed” your need for romance, and that you are faithful and committed to them. Let your romance be like a buffet: Pick and chose the things that make your spouse feel special, and have all you can eat!